Love and Respect Among Partners

To truly experience ecstatic sex, love must be at the foundation. Love involves sincerity and nothing is more stimulating to the heart and aids the flow of energy during orgasm throughout the body than genuine expressions of love to one another.

As Partners Share Loving Validations They Can:
Gaze into each other's eyes with deep sincere love and respect,
Hold each other dressed or undressed as they share,
Lightly caress and touch each other being sure that the touch is not intended to arouse, but to express the loving thought.

Respecting a Male Sexual Partner
When it comes to validating the male, it is best to play to the aspect of respect. In particular, men enjoy validation for the things they do, provide, and protect.

These types of validations are often more meaningful than validating their inner qualities, though men do enjoy hearing about how they can be courageous, full of integrity, intelligent and industrious, to name a few more masculine elements.

Loving a Female Sexual Partner
As for a woman, she typically enjoys being validated for her qualities of being, more than doing. She may be especially sensitive to comments on her smile, looks, laughter, compassion, beauty, style, warmth, wit, and so forth. And, she may enjoy hearing how she is a good help mate, wise, sexy, nurturing, and supportive. What matters most is that the inner qualities are stressed more than her outer activities.

Five Senses of Seduction

Men, if you want to attract the opposite sex, you might consider becoming a Cardinals fan.

A new study from the University of Rochester has that found women are strongly attracted to the color red. Researchers showed pictures of men in varying shirt colors to almost 300 women, and time and time again, women believed the men in red to be the most "powerful, attractive and sexually desirable."

Although we aren't quite sure why this attraction exists, it is just one of the many ways that our senses play into our sexual desire and our selection of mates.

If you want to become an expert at attracting the opposite sex, consider the following findings on sexual attraction and the senses:

The nose knows. You might think that stand-bys like Old Spice and Chanel No. 5 are the sexiest scents, but Dr. Alan Hirsch of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation in Chicago discovered quite interesting evidence to the contrary. Hirsch and his team had study participants sniff numerous different scents, and they then tracked sexual arousal post-sniff.

Surprisingly, scents of cucumber and licorice had the biggest impact on sexual arousal for both men and women. So, the next time you want to win over your date, try lighting a licorice-scented candle or using cucumber body wash. Every little bit helps!

Seducing with sound. If you want to let your man know that you are attracted to him, ditch the Paris Hilton baby voice. A recent study from Albright College in Reading, Penn., found that when women are sexually attracted to someone, they almost instinctively lower their voices, which might come as a surprise to people who associate hyper-femininity and high-pitched voices with sexual attraction.

Instead, try using a husky, breathy voice (reminiscent of Lauren Bacall) to let your date know that you might be into a nightcap at his place.

Using taste to tempt. We have all heard of common aphrodisiacs such as oysters and chocolate. These tempting foods purport to up our sexual desire and make date night out-of-this-world.

Personally, I believe that almost any food can be sensual, especially if you prepare it as a couple and take the time to smell and taste the food as you go along.

Though food is inherently sensual, some fare is more tempting than others. Any food that resembles a sexual organ often is quite racy think cucumbers or bananas.

Spicy foods such as jalapeno peppers get your heart rate going and can even flush your face, mimicking the reaction your body has during sex. Other foods such as creamy avocados, luscious strawberries, and fun finger foods like fondue also can be very sexy to eat and share.

And, last but not least, chocolate truly is the key to making magic in the kitchen! An Italian study found that women who consumed chocolate on a regular basis enjoyed a better sex life than women who did not, including increased levels of desire, arousal and satisfaction.

Let your fingers do the talking. The final sense is touch. While touching in the bedroom is clearly sensual, touching outside the bedroom is just as important, if not more so!

Little touches and caresses throughout the day keep you connected with your partner and increase your sexual attraction and bond. So scratch his back, play with her hair, hold hands in the grocery store -- and, of course, kiss!

Reasons why People have Sex in Public

Public sex is forbidden by law as well as morality. So what drives people to have sex in public?

1. Sex in public: Voyeurism
With public sex there`s always a chance that someone is watching, which can be a real aphrodisiac. It makes people feel like a real pornographic star without the scenery and camera. Some couples are aroused by the thought of someone watching them and getting aroused by their performance. It is a sort of exhibitionism which can`t be achieved at home behind the four walls.

2. Sex in public: A chance to get caught
Others are excited by the fact that someone can always catch them while having sex. This is accompanied by the feeling that they`re doing something forbidden which adds an extra excitement. Such people see public sex as naughty and very fun at the same time.

3. Sex in public: Spontaneous decision
If you are completely overcome by passion it is sometimes hard to wait to get home. Instead you choose a remote place to enjoy in your passionate moments and hope that no one will see you. There`s nothing wrong with it and it does not mean you`re a fetishist who only gets aroused in public. You are not the only one who had this experience but be careful not to get caught.

4. Sex in public: Break the routine
Many couples decide to spice up their intimate moments with sex in a public place. Some are satisfied with buying a new erotic toy or role playing, while others decide for public sex and when the opportunity arises they use it.

5. Sex in public: No other possibility
There are people who can`t have sex at home the way they want to or with the person they want to. Some people don`t have their own private space and public sex is their only possible option. This group of people is also most often caught and punished for having sex in public.