Do You Know What is True Love?

There are a few things love isn’t. Love isn’t a feeling. Although real love is often accompanied by strong feelings, love does not equate with the sense of floating on clouds. Unlike the type of love that movies, television, and songs portray, people in love don’t always feel ooey gooey around each other.

A relationship wouldn’t last long on emotions. In fact, knowledge is the basis of a healthy relationship.

Do You Know All About Fetishes

When you look past the world of "classic sex" there is a whole other world of fetishes. Fetishes are defined as an obsession with a specific act or feeling that generates arousal. These come in many forms. Some are basic like fetishes about feet or hands, while others involve intense role-playing. These are the most secretive types of fetishes.

The Art of Kissing

Do you remember your first kiss? Sometimes we forget how important a kiss can be. We grow up, get jobs, have responsibilities, and lose that connection. We take for granted the soft, sensuous intimacy of a kiss that compels us to want more, reminding us that we are alive.

Recently, a couple came in for sex therapy, and after four years of marriage had lost their interest in sex and kissing. They loved each other, wanted to be together, and were raising a young child. When I asked about their sexual habits, I learned that they initiated sex with one or the other saying, "We should probably have sex tonight." When asked about kissing, they just stared at me like I was a nutty therapist. It wasn't something they were engaging in to enhance their sexual experience or their lives together.

Kissing has a science behind it. When we kiss someone, a surge of oxytocin is released in our brain. This hormone is critical to our bonding and attachment to another human being. Its release makes us feel wonderful, safe, and deeply connected to our lover. It creates a breathtaking intimacy between the two. This deep connection is probably the reason why no video time is wasted on kissing in pornography. Kissing not only generates sexual excitement, but also euphoria. Yes, euphoria! So why, after a couple of months or years together do we forget to kiss our partner in just that way that drives them wild?

Kissing also has an evolutionary history. Some believe that it came about to insure the species continued. Mothers chewed their food in tiny bits and fed it to their babies, mouth to mouth. Another theory is that kissing was a way for women to test out the future father of their children. Some even say that kissing began as a way of spreading germs to a woman before she became pregnant so as to build her immunity.

But I do not think the scientists nor the historians have the entire picture on kissing. How can a scientific model explain the level of intimacy when two people decide to come so close their lips brush together? And how can an historian really explain the emotional surge that comes along with the tingle that starts in the hundreds of nerve endings housed in your lips and courses through your entire body?

They don't comprehend the significance of a simple kiss. A kiss is not just a kiss. It can make or break a relationship and/or sexual encounter. Think about Snow White's kiss with the prince or the tale of the princess and the frog. These kisses were more than just a simple joining of lips. They symbolized a rebirth, a transformation. Eve Glicksman says, "Ancient lovers believed a kiss would literally unite their souls, because the spirit was said to be carried in one's breath."

No matter the movie, East of Eden, The Notebook, or Brokeback Mountain, we all remember the scene that draws us in and ignites something inside. The connection between the characters and their longing for one another heightens our anticipation of the kiss.

A single kiss can mean so many things - a greeting, a farewell, a fondness - but what really draws us in is the longing for another, the promise of a sweet surrender to come. Or maybe it is the breath of life, letting us know we are vibrant and alive. It is part of the human experience. As Shelley said, "Soul meets soul on lovers' lips".

So how can you become a better kisser? Maintaining good oral health, using lip balm, gazing into your partner's eyes, moving in, and tilting your head are all things that will help you plant one on your lover. Beyond that it's important to maintain a sense of being in the moment. What makes a kiss special is what it says in that very moment, solely between those two people. The best thing about the kiss is the experience of being mindful with your full attention on your partner and his or her full attention on you.

So go ahead, give your partner a full on, luscious, mouth-to-mouth smooch tonight. It might not be your first kiss, but it can be your best.

Can Night Satisfies Women

Of all the techniques out there that lead to total female satisfaction, these are the ones experts say the majority of women overlook way too often.

1. Do It Before Sundown
Most of us get it on before bed, but that isn't the best time for women to have sex, says Laurie Mintz, PhD, author of A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex. Not only are you sleepy, but postwork worries cause your body to release the hormone cortisol, squashing your sex drive. In the a.m., women and men have naturally higher testosterone levels (which explains his morning wood). So set your alarm to go off earlier, and give him a sexy wake-up call.

2. Treat Him Like a Sex Object
"Women spend too much energy worrying about turning a guy on," says Joel Block, PhD, coauthor of Sex Comes First. To enjoy sex more, be selfish. Ogle your guy as if he were Taylor Lautner in Eclipse. By assuming the role of the "viewer" and focusing on your desire, you're less likely to be self-conscious and more willing to do whatever comes to your dirty mind.

3. Let It All Hang Out
Do you suck in your tummy when you're on top? Bad idea. That makes it harder to breathe deeply, which is a key to orgasm, says certified sexuality educator Amy Levine. Instead, try the tantric trick of slowing your breathing and taking deeper breaths. The extra oxygen will make your orgasm more intense by increasing blood flow below the belt.

4. Lock Eyes
You look everywhere but his eyes during the deed because it makes you feel vulnerable, says Block, but it's one of the best ways you can connect when naked. It sends the message that you're really into him and keeps your arousal high because your guy is mirroring his desire back at you. Ease into it by meeting his gaze for a few seconds and giving a sexy smile, then build up to longer eye contact.

5. Make Some Noise
Moaning, heavy breathing, and sighing during sex ups arousal by stimulating your central nervous system, says Mintz. Plus, if you don't speak up, he'll have a harder time figuring out what you like. Saying something like "Slow down — this feels incredible" is a positive way to get your message across, she says.

6. Insist on an O
You're so close, you can practically taste it, and then…he finishes first. Don't call it a night: "Make it clear that your needs are just as important," says Mintz. If you don't, it's easy to build up resentment (even if you're not aware of it), which can strain your relationship. Focus on your orgasm first, or if that doesn't work, brush your lips against his ear and purr "I want you to help me finish." Then hand him your vibrator.

The Magical Kiss

When a kiss is great, it can be electrifying for both parties. When it is bad … well, let's just say there isn't a lot of hope for a second date. Here are some tips to keep in mind the next time you're getting ready to pucker up.

You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss… hang on a minute. No it isn't! Because when it comes to dating, a kiss can change everything. Sometimes it's spine-tinglingly magical and sends shivers from your neck to your toes.

And sometimes, well, it feels more like licking a wet fish. While the chemistry you feel on your night out says a lot about how the kiss might go, there are a few things you can do to increase your chances of butterflies, chills, fireworks, and other memory-making moments. Try these lip-smacking tips to make this the first of many kisses to come.

Read when the moment is right. Ever found yourself bumbling and mumbling at the end of a date, wondering if your attempt at a good night smack will be the kiss of death? You're not alone. Stand close to your date, and let your arm rub against his or hers. Face your date with your arms open, not crossed, to show you're open to a kiss. Tell your date you had a good time, and ask your date how he or she felt. And most important?

Lock lips in a place where you don't have to hold back. Yes, it's romantic to kiss, say, out on a street corner, but if you're not the PDA type, you might end up holding back during your kiss. And those unsure feelings could hold back a fireworks-worthy performance. The fact is, kissing signals our brains to produce oxytocin, a hormone that gives us that wonderful, weak-kneed feeling. And the chemicals that produced that feeling prompt you to want to kiss more and create more, like a love drug.

Make eye contact before, during, and after your kiss. Eye contact immediately ups the intimacy level of any sexual act, say experts—so if you're smooching with your peepers shut tight, you could be missing out! So, before you go for gold, take a few seconds — one Mississippi, two Mississippi — to look at your partner eye-to-eye and establish this is a special moment between the two of you. After you first kiss, pull back, open your eyes, really look at your date, then kiss again. Then, open your eyes once during the kiss to bring the personal touch home.

Flirt With the One You Love

One of the things the two of you did when you first met and started dating was to flirt with one another. You were able to convey your intentions in a playful and romantic way through your flirting with each other.

Now that you are married, don't stop flirting with your spouse. Both of you need to continue to be fluent flirters!

Why You Should Flirt With Your Spouse
Flirting is a way to be playful with your spouse.
Flirting can be an ego booster for both you and your spouse.
Flirting with each other helps keep your marriage alive.
Flirting is a positive way to communicate your love to each other.
Flirting is a way to remind one another that you are still attracted to each other.
It is good for your children and grandchildren to notice your love for one another.
Flirting with your spouse is fun and natural.
How to Flirt With Your Spouse
You should already know how to flirt with your spouse. But just in case you forgot, here are a few tips.
Flirting should be spontaneous. Don't flirt at the same time everyday.
Look into your spouse's eyes. You have to make eye contact to flirt.

Coy looks, a glance, a wink, a smile, a pat on your spouse's rear, lowering your eyes, an arched eyebrow -- these all say you are still interested in your spouse.

You can toss your head slightly, squeeze your spouse's hand or knee, place your hand in a light touch on your mate's shoulder or back, give a hug.

The tone of your voice, leaning toward your spouse when giving a compliment, or a peck on your spouse's neck can show you care.

You know what your "come-and-get-me stance" looks like. Give your spouse that look at an unpredictable time.

Other flirting cues are whispering, fidgeting with earrings, necklace, necktie, change in your pocket, sitting close together, shyly looking away, leaving a love note for your spouse to find.

Flirting With Others Could Cause Problems in Your Marriage

You should be aware that flirting with someone other than your spouse can create jealousy problems in your marriage. The special gestures, glances, and expressions that make up your flirting technique should be reserved for your spouse.

Flirting with other people is playing with fire. It can undermine your marriage, make your spouse feel unappreciated, could show a lack of respect for your spouse and your marriage, and might be offensive not only to your spouse but to the person you are flirting with. Responding with comments about how you were "just joking" or "playing around" or "it doesn't mean anything" or "it's just harmless teasing" probably won't lessen your spouse's sense of being offended.